The interesting thing about online and adult dating is that it really is a numbers game. If you’re thinking that you only need to have the right profile and the right chicks will flock to you, you have another thing coming. In fact, you’re going to be very disappointed. The reality is that it doesn’t matter how good-looking you are or how much money you have in the bank. You have to work.
Of course, working to get noticed by chicks online is so much better than doing things offline. In the offline world, you have to go to a bar or to a singles’ club or to dance clubs. You have to get set up, and you have to go through all sorts of bullshits and hoops. Not online. In an online dating site, you just need to type the right search parameters in a search engine within the adult dating site and you’re pretty much good to go. Of course, this doesn’t mean it’s easy.
The searching part is easier, but the hooking up part is not guaranteed. I need to keep these two things separate in your mind. These are two totally different things. This is where the numbers game comes in. If you want to hook up with one woman, this means that you have to filter maybe 100, or if you’re unlucky, 200 women.
The sad reality is that if you sent a message to just one chick, chances are very high that she won’t message you back. For some reason or other, she won’t respond. Maybe she found sex online already. Maybe she just doesn’t have the time. Maybe she’s just not that into you. Whatever the case may be, she’s not going to message back. This is why you have to hedge your bets by sending out a lot of notices. Again, for you to get one, you have to maybe hit 20 or even 100. I have to emphasize this because this is exactly what happened to me.
In the beginning, I joined this adult date website and I thought I was hot shit. You know, I got an advanced degree, I’m making over $120,000 a year, I live in the nicest part of San Francisco, I drive a Mercedes and I think my shit’s going on. In fact, I thought so highly of myself that I thought my shit didn’t stink. Well, boy, was I brought down to Earth very quickly. I went to adultdate.org, picked the best-looking chick and I sent her an email. Then I waited, and waited, and waited.
It took me several weeks to get the lesson. That’s not how you play the game. You have to set aside your pride and you have to run after the chicks online. The great thing about online dating is that people don’t see you running after them. People don’t see you getting all desperate and sweaty. Basically, there’s still a lot of dignity left intact when you do online dating searches. Compare this when doing things offline. It’s too easy to look like a fool. Believe me, I’ve done it and it’s not pretty.
So, I changed my game plan. Instead of looking for the best-looking chick who probably is being targeted by thousands of other dudes, I focused on women that I still physically prefer and also focused on volume. I did this by doing two things. First, I broadened my location search.
The online datingsite that I joined uses a location search system, this is the adult dating site in question by the way. What it means is if you live in one part of San Francisco, you can choose to search within that particular district or you can search into a broader area like the whole Bay area or the west bay or east bay near Oakland. So, I broadened the geographic search and the second thing that I did is I looked at recent activity. This is a time-saver for me because I experimented a little bit previously and I was just not doing well at all.
The reason why I was failing is because I looked at profiles that have not been active for a long, long time. If these chicks haven’t been logging in, what are the chances of them seeing my message and hooking up with me? That’s right, exactly zero. So, I paired these two parameters together and without relaxing my standard of beauty, I did another search. This produced about 300 results and I’m happy to report that I’ve banged about 5 of those women. Sure, you might think that 60:1 odds are pretty lousy, but hey, I’m telling you right now if you are in a dance club or a singles’ bar and you’re trying to hook up, a 60:1 ratio is simply not going to happen.
So anyway, I met up with this chick, Audrey, and she brought her friend, Lilian, with her. I thought it was just one of those things that chicks do when they’re nervous on a date. They don’t really know what to expect so they bring a third party just to make sure that things are on the up and up and no bullshit happens. Well, it turns out that these two chicks are bisexual lovers. They live together and they’ve been a couple for a long time. It also turned out that they like having threesomes.
So it was really an awesome experience because I got introduced into the world of threesome by bisexual women. You can’t tell they are by looking at them. One chick is a grade-school teacher and the other chick is a lawyer. They look very professional,down-to-earth, are very good-looking and normal but with highly abnormal sex drive and fetish. It really blew my mind and they’re really good friends to me. We meet from time to time when I’m at that side of San Francisco. It really is great to have a morning coffee, eat some well-prepared crepes. I highly recommend Crepes on Cole, the best crepes as far as I’m concerned in San Francisco, and yes, I also get my dick sucked and I get to fuck a tight hole. It’s a great package. So if you’re ever into adult dating, you might want to do things the way I did and save yourself the heartbreak, disappointment and waste of time.